We have all experienced being hurt, betrayed and angry with someone. It doesn’t matter if it’s one person or a group or if its someone who was close to you or whom you didn’t even really know. It could also be you. It doesn’t even matter what they did. What matters is how you feel and how all consuming those feelings of hurt and rage can be.
Somethings happened to me a couple of months ago that threw me for a loop and left me feeling like a wounded animal. I just couldn’t believe that someone I had thought was my friend could up and disappear in a heart beat and never look back. Not only did I miss this person but it mad me ask myself how I could have so misjudged the situation and what I’d done wrong. I was judge and jury, defense and offense all rolled up in one. I’d be driving along on a beautiful day and suddenly I’d realize that I was thinking about the whole situation and feeling bad. My thoughts had a life of their own and were magnetized toward wearing even deeper ruts in my brain and heart.
Since I am whole-heartedly committed to personal and spiritual growth and to seeing what-ever happens as an opportunity for learning, I couldn’t help but see this situation as an intensive course that I knew would leave me in a very different place.
I have learned a lot and more continues to be revealed. The main message that has been coming through loud and clear bears repeating over and over and over. When you’re ready to hear something, you know how the message keeps reappearing in all kinds of forms and places as if the universe were also really committed to your getting it and getting right.
Last week I was watching an Eckert Tolle DVD with friends. He was talking about forgiveness. He said that forgiveness is really about seeing others as unconscious and, like Christ said, “knowing not what they do.” It doesn’t mean that what they or you did was right and doesn’t have consequneces. It means that you can know that they came from a place of being asleep to their true natures.
When we continue to hold onto anger, we become just like the people we are angry at – unconscious. Forgiveness unleashes energy. When you forgive someone you let go of your negative judgments. You lay down your weapons and armor and proceed onward. You lighten up.
I received a daily quote from TUT the Universe that sums it up with a smile:
“You can rest assured, Anne, that those who have hurt you had absolutely no idea of what they were doing and what was really going on.
It never occurred to them that you’d become even more magnificent. That they’d be invoking your sympathy, adding to your compassion, and increasing your “sparkles.” And it will still be eons before they can grasp that you actually welcomed them into your life and played their little games for some of these very reasons.
Love you with all of my heart,
The Universe
This message is also for you. I hope that it inspires you to think of someone (including yourself) that you have not yet forgiven – to whom your heart has been closed – and allows you to bravely let go of your judgments and experience a fresh rush of love and a return of energy to propel you onward.
